RE: I am just so incredibly hurt.
It does suck. I'm sorry.
I've been to my three best guy friends' weddings. I had even dated one of them freshman year of college-- his wife knows because she lived in our dorm. That friend and I went so far as to make sure our weddings were scheduled so we could each attend the other's (you know, avoiding honemoons). It would have been weird not to. We still see them every time we go home (and it's been 9 years since we got married).
If she hadn't met you, I could see that there could be some jealousy-- but she has & she knows about your friendship. I'm sorry you'll miss out on their special day.
Heather
Mommy to DS (9/03) and DD (5/08)