RE: how independent is your 18 month old????
I agree! Find ways to get her to "help mama." It takes longer sometimes, but it really eases your sanity when you have to get stuff done. I've had DD#1 load laundry into the washer, into the dryer, into the laundry basket, etc. Or I give her a baby wipe and she "cleans." I have also had her play mommy to her dolls when I'm with DD#2. She has put them to bed, nursed them, rocked them, etc. I have also had her do stuff just for her little sister like bringing her toys. And when all else fails, we turn on Little Bear!
My girls are 17 months apart, and everyone told me I was nuts to have them so close in age. But I have really loved having them this close. Those first few months can be really hard, but once you get into a rhythm it is awesome! Good luck mama!
Jen
DD#1 is 7 years old
DD#2 is 6 year old