First, let me say I am VERY sorry to hear of your miscarriage...

From what I've gathered so far most people transition for a reason (baby's due, toddler is a climber, or toddler has literally outgrown the bed). In our case our crib was damaged when we moved and we HAD to convert it to the toddler setting (gate kept falling down). Soooo, don't feel like this is an age issue - you don't have to move her.

If you feel that this is something she needs to do, then I would suggest a gradual process. First off, does she need to change rooms? If she is happy in her room now can you just make the transition there?

If she does need to change rooms perhaps you could transition her stuff slowly to the new room (maybe move the changing station, then the clothes, then the toys, etc.) over a week. Then move the crib. When she seems used to that THEN start using the double bed - maybe for naps first then later for at night.

Truthfully, if I didn't HAVE to move my DD she would still be using a crib. It will be a LONG time before she needs to get out by herself (like for pottying at night) and why mess with what works?

Hope that helps...

Jen in Okinawa
Mom to Noelle (2 1/3)