I want to share our experience while it's still fresh in my mind. :)
My DS, who is three and a half years old, didn't really show any signs of being ready to potty train when he was younger. We had a few books about going potty and read them to him. Not every night, but we'd have the books among the piles for him to choose from.
When he turned three, we introduced him to Pull-ups and started showing him how to use the potty. He'd go in the toilet every once in a while when we asked him, but he preferred to urinate into his pull-up/diaper. He also never cared about having an extremely wet pull-up/diaper, which amazed me. I didn't make an effort with potty training because I read websites and books that gave lists of signs that indicated "potty-training readiness" and my DS did not exhibit a single one! I was starting to get worried and quite honestly, was getting a little depressed about the possibility that he wouldn't be potty trained until he was 4 or 5!
Well, about a week and a half ago, I made the decision to just "go-for-it." With preschool starting in September and the school requiring the kids to be toilet trained, I figured that now was the time to do it! So I dove on in, not knowing whether or not I'd be successful, but I was determined to make the effort to stay home until we made some progress.
So, on Monday afternoon (Day 1), I took off the pull-up and put on underwear and we started. I started loading him up with water, juice, and milk. I had a timer on and when it rang after 20 minute increments, we made a visit to the restroom, whether he needed to or not. I had a laminated chart that I bought at a teacher supply store that had the following listed (with matching cartoon pictures next each phrase):
1. Go Fast
2. Use Potty
3. Wash Hands
4. Yeah! We're Dry!
5. Reward
I drew a smiley face next to each statement after talking about it with him (especially #4, where I'd say something like, "Our underwear is dry and the carpet/floor is dry...YEAH!"). Our reward was three mini-M&M's each time he did it. The next time we visited, I'd erase the previous smiley faces and then had the same talk. When he'd have an accident, we'd go back to the chart and I'd put a sad face on things he didn't do and then say we'd try again next time.
By the end of the afternoon we had SEVEN accidents (BTW, "Kid-N-Pets Stain and Odor Remover is GREAT a wonderful product: http://www.kidsnpetsbrand.com/). It was frustrating for both of us, but we kept at it. On Tuesday (Day 2), after the third accident I decided that perhaps the "naked method" was the way to go. I mean, he's already had all these accidents and so what difference did it make whether he went in his underwear or directly on the carpet/floor?
A BIG difference, apparently. When I told him that he was going naked the rest of the day, he DID NOT like that one bit, but guess what? No accidents the rest of the day. Happy Faces were drawn on the chart and mini M&Ms each time!
By Wednesday (Day 3), I started extending the timer to 30 minutes, then to 45 minutes and we had NO accidents so he didn't have to go naked. On Thursday (Day 4), I decided to drop the timer all together and began asking my DS once in a while if he had to go. We had one accident that day and we went naked the rest of the day. By Friday (Day 5), we had no accidents and he was now starting to initiate the need to urintate himself!
On Saturday (Day 6), we spent all day at an amusement park near our home and I had him in Pull-ups. He was dry the ENTIRE day! He even told me while we were in line for the boat ride, "Mommy, I have to go bathroom!" Those were the sweetest words I ever heard. We ran to the bathroom and he held it until we got to the toilet! And then...a miracle occurred! My DH noticed that DS was holding his behind and had a funny look on his face. When we asked him if he needed to go poo-poo, he nodded his head. Both DH and DS ran to the restroom and DS had a bowel movement in the toilet! I was so proud of DS!
On Sunday (Day 7), DD and DS spent the day at my in-law's house while DH and I watched a musical performance (RENT) and again, DS did not have an accident. My MIL told me that he even went to the bathroom on his own several times while he was there.
And as of today (Day 11) there's been no pee accidents...since Day 4. WHOO HOO! I still remind him once in a while, but he pretty much goes all on his own (pulls down underwear, pees, puts on underwear, flushes toilet, washes hands). I'm still there at the end to put on those smiley faces and give those three mini M&M's, but I don't mind a single bit!
We're not out of the woods yet. We're still working on his bowel movements and that's a bit harder for him to master, unfortunately. We've had a few accidents, but I think he'll get the idea very soon. At least I hope...;)
And that's our story...HTH!
Jeanette
(formerly known as jeanmick, member since Feb 2003)
DD Born Christmas Eve
DS Born Valentine's Day