So, I realize as part of the home study you meet with a social worker, and they can be helpful to some extent. But in some ways they are creating a report that is going to determine if you can adopt. (I realize they are not judging how clean your house is and most people "pass.") But I don't feel like it is just for me and my husband to sort out some of our thinking about adoption BEFORE we pick an agency/plan/age of child, etc. Has anyone heard of someone talking with a SW familiar with adoption separate from the homestudy? I'm really struggling with some issues around age of child to adopt, birth order, doing it now vs. waiting. Plus, I really do think it is helpful to have a neutral and trained person help guide a discussion with my DH. Not that we can't talk about it together, I'm just sometimes wondering if we are really getting at everything we need to talk about. Just wondering if anyone has heard of this or have experience with it.
Jeanne
Mom to Harvey
1/16/03