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    Lenox12 Guest

    Default How to get new baby on a schedule?

    My baby is 3 1/2 weeks old and I was wondering how and when to try to get her on a schedule? If anyone can help I would appreciate it.

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    agomalley Guest

    Default RE: How to get new baby on a schedule?

    I personally think that 3 1/2 weeks is too early to try and get her on a schedule. I had all intentions of trying to get DS on some type of a flexible schedule before he was born, but I ended up taking things from him and really learned how to read his cues. I found that once I could distinguish his tired cries from his sleepy ones, things were much easier. I also kept a journal and wrote down when he was eating and sleeping. A pattern did start to emerge and I found that it helped me know what he wanted at certain times. You might try that. One thing I have learned is that DS will do things when he's ready (sleep thought the night, sleep in his crib, etc.) This has helped me not stress over things I think he "ought" to be doing, because I know it will happen eventually. Hope that makes sense.
    Good Luck,

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    Lenox12 Guest

    Default RE: How to get new baby on a schedule?

    I will try that. Thanks for your help.

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    jbeamer Guest

    Default RE: How to get new baby on a schedule?

    I agree with Anabelle. I read many books before DD was born, I even took notes! I was very prepared to schedule her and our lives. I was going to do things right. The only thing that helped from all those books and notes was learning my baby's cues. I started really paying attention to DD's cries and sleep patterns, kept a journal and then found out she was pretty much on her own schedule. That helped me plan my day. Of course her schedule would change as it does now, but somewhere there seems to be a pattern. Remember also that growth spurts change a baby's schedule, may eat more often, wake up more during the night, but after the spurt the schedule usually goes back to normal.

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    jillie Guest

    Default RE: How to get new baby on a schedule?

    Hi there, (warning: long answer to your question!)

    I very very respectfully disagree with the above daughter started on a schedule at exactly 3 and a half weeks and within three days she was responding very well. She is now eight weeks old and regularly sleeps between 5 to 7 hours per night. It isn't easy to hear your very precious little baby crying and it sometimes can make you frustrated,but I will pass along the basics that worked for me...

    I have her on a four hour feeding schedule during the day, which she readily has fallen in with....she automatically wakes up from sleep at four hour intervals to eat and most often goes right back to sleep afterwards...this is also when I change her diaper...
    People may disagree with this also...but I do not allow "snacking" on a regular basis...mealtime is for eating and I do not want her to confuse mealtime and playtime...I nurse her on one side, and tickle her head, or remove part of her clothing to keep her awake if I notice her falling asleep. (cold hands work too!)...if I notice that she's just kind of hanging out looking around, but not eating at the moment, I will lay her down...that always lets me know if she's hungry, because she will start to cry then, and then resume eating on the other side.

    My schedule is usually like this...6 am (ish) feeding, then 10 am, 2 pm, and 6 pm....then a 10 pm feeding in a dark quiet place...where I then put her down and let her sleep as long as she can. Sometimes she will wake up and whimper a little bit in the middle of the night, but I have been experiementing with trying to hold her off with a pacifier as long as possible...she usually makes it anywhere to 3:30 to 5:00 with this method...I do not freak out if those times aren't exact...just that she eats in four hour intervals...and like I said, that happened quickly after starting to do this...within just a couple of days it worked for us.

    The best part of this schedule is that I know when something isn't quite right with her...she will want to eat more/less and her sleep is a bit disrupted. This has allowed me to know her well and to communicate easily with the pediatrician as well.

    It's not easy, and it takes a full committment to be successful. One other thing...I also do not pick her up every single time she cries. This is the most controversial part of this...there are definitely parents that do not like this, but it works for my daughter so far. (Obviously, I cannot say absolutely do not do this...I break the rules occaisionally), but for the most part, I pat her back, comfort her verbally and if I am going to be nearby, sometimes turning her onto her tummy helps too.
    I have found the main source of her crying is usually just overstimulation/overtiredness, and she is just learning how to comfort herself.

    Also, since tummy trouble is common in little ones, I have found a terrific homeopathic remedy called Tum Ease made by Eclectic's made from dill, ginger, and fennel and I give hr 1/4 teaspoon befor every other feeding and it seems to take the edge off her gas/tummy discomfort.

    Obviously, the method needs to work for you, and this isn't for everyone. However, I now know exactly when I can schedule MY life, since I know that I can be gone from 3-4 hour intervals and I know when she'll need to eat. I am around other parents who feed on demand/pick up and jostle babies and their lives are so much more chaotic--and they always comment on how "lucky" I am to have such a happy child...It's not luck, it's a lot of work, but for me, I cannot stress enough how pleasant it is to have this relationship with my baby...I truly do feel like I know her so well because I now know what to anticipate.

    Good luck, and please email me if you have any more questions...I realize this is a very lenghty answer!

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    julesjlb Guest

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    I was just wondering what your pediatrician thinks about you keeping your little one on this schedule. I'm curious b/c my pediatrician made it very clear that we should feed on demand. Were you supported?

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    TraciG is offline Sapphire level (2000+ posts)
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    Default It seems bottlefed babies are MUCH easier to put on a schedule

    is your baby bottlefed or breasfed ?

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    julesjlb Guest

    Default RE: It seems bottlefed babies are MUCH easier to put on a schedule

    He is bottlefed.

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    Kieransmom Guest

    Default RE: How to get new baby on a schedule?

    Mine did too. Feed on demand. If you read Baby 411 this type of schedueling sounds a great deal like Baby Wise and this got an F because babies were failing to thrive. My son is breastfed and you can't span the feedings every 4 hours at that young of an age because the breast milk digests much faster than formula.

    Mommy to Kieran, born 5/9/03

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    Default RE: It seems bottlefed babies are MUCH easier to put on a schedule

    Whether breastfed or bottlefed, puting a young infant on a schedule can be dangerous. Their tummys are very small and need to be fed often. While it may work for some infants, it isn't commonly encouraged until 3+ months. I suggest you ask your ped.

    My DD fell into a nice schedule at about 4/5 months. I followed her lead and noticed the general times she was tired or hungry. It helped to have a routine (for example reading a book, shutting the curtains and then whispering good night before naps). DD likes the predictability of our routines throughout the day which makes the transitions much smoother.

    Good luck and enjoy this special time - it goes by so very fast!!


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