What to do about a toddler who refuses to sleep in a bed?
I'm actually posting this for a friend. She is so desperate she asked me today "PLEASE ask those internet mommies of yours what to do!" LOL!
Here's the story. Her DD is about a month older than Sarah, so 31 months. My friend is due with her second child in June. They recently bought a larger house and moved in two weeks ago. When they moved, they set up a big girl bed for her DD in the new room and put the old crib in the room that will be the nursery for the new baby.
Her DD REFUSES to sleep in the bed. Every night for the last 2 weeks, my friend has put her to bed in the new bed. And every night, her child dismantles the bedding, dragging her blanket and various bedtime friends (and she has several including a special lovie), over to the gate that is now at the door to her new room, and basically sets up a little nest there and goes to sleep. She does this for every night and every nap.
My friend is beside herself. She has tried everything she can think of to try and keep/convince her DD to stay in the bed to no avail. She's tried gate/no gate, door open/door closed, night lights, the works. Before this her DD was a super champion sleeper, sleeping 13 hours at night and 3 hours afternoon naps. She is now not sleeping as well (although still rather well by most standards) and my friend is feeling worn down as well as rather guilty about the whole thing. A few days of this she was prepared for. But its been 2 weeks, and when asked her DD says that she is very happy to sleep on the floor.
We've racked our brains. I suggested to her today that maybe she was TOO comfy by the gate and maybe take away some of the bedding/stuffed animals that she is using to build her "nest".
Any thoughts? Anyone BTDT?
Thanks!
Beth, mom to older DD (8/01) and younger DD (10/06) and always missing Leah (4/22 - 5/1/05)