RE: Advice about playgroups
Well, yes, that is how it is with older kids. Sorry. :) And don't worry, the smaller ones will all catch up and be aggressive too!
But a big thing that seem to help is having fewer toys out at playgroup. While this seems counterintuitive :) , when there are a million toys, the kids seem to go a little nuts, but with fewer toys they seem to fight less.
Also, as much as you can when the weather is nice, have playgroup outside at a park. That makes things much less stresful!
HTH,
Beth, mom to older DD (8/01) and younger DD (10/06) and always missing Leah (4/22 - 5/1/05)