RE: Falling Asleep on the Job - BFing at night!
Will it make you feel better to learn that my DS started a lot like yours (we often fell asleep together during nighttime feedings) and he now falls asleep fairly well in his crib at night? He still wakes once to eat (and finishes the night in bed with me), but I haven't worked very hard on phasing out that feeding because it's extra cuddle time for us that I wouldn't get during the day because I'm back at work.
I don't want to mislead you. We had a bit of work to do on getting him into his crib. It took a couple weeks of a consistent routine/bedtime and a lot of patience (thank goodness for my DH!) to get DS to sleep in the crib for the first 5 or 6 hours at night. And we didn't really start this until about 6 or 8 weeks ago. We coslept 'til then once DS grew out of the bassinet.
I would say to follow your mommy instincts. I generally could figure out if DS was really hungry (i.e. it'd been a few hours since he last ate) vs. if he just wanted to be soothed (i.e. it'd only been 15 minutes since he last ate!). More than 50% of the soothings were done by my DH-- that was something he could do on his own since we were BF'ing. I think that's why DH does much better with the bedtime routine than I do now!
Feeding and sleeping were our two biggest concerns at that point (and I daresay that's the same for most parents of healthy babies). Good luck sorting through what's going to work best for your family!
Heather
Mommy to DS (9/03) and DD (5/08)