RE: "2nd babies won't take bottles" -- crazy?
I'm like the other posters: bottles are a no-go with my second child, but I don't think your doctor's statements ring true. I don't think birth order is the issue; rather, I believe that my daughter refuses a bottle because she never got used to taking one. She had one a few times in her first 5 weeks, then none for many weeks because I was so busy. Then when I tried to bring her back to it, she refused it repeatedly, took it twice (not in a row), and then solidy refused it again.
I would like my daughter to take a bottle because it buys me freedom for being gone at a feeding. For example, I had to bring her on our home inspection for a new house purchase because no one else can feed her. My husband and I sorely need a night out - it's either that or martial counseling, I think! - but no babysitter can feed her right now.
This is by no means to say that you or anyone else should give a bottle if you don't want to. I just know very clearly why I would like to give one on occasion.
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