RE: I don't understand the breastfeeding debate
I don't get it either.
I think it is mean to suggest that something is wrong with a woman if she can't or chooses not to breastfeed or when she chooses to stop. Likewise, it is mean to look down upon women who are breastfeeding whether it be in public, past a certain "socially acceptable point," or at all.
To me, it is the antithesis of feminism to put women down for choices they make, especially if the put-downs or the "holier than thouness" comes from other women. Yes, sure, most women's breastmilk is probably healthier for her baby. However, breastfeeding is not always the best choice for mother AND baby. When we hear "nurse until it is no longer mutually desired," we should keep in mind that that means a woman's desire to continue as well as the baby's; neither party should feel forced.
That said, I haven't heard much "debate." I saw there was a show on it in the Lounge? However, I do know women who've felt looked down upon for the choices they made -- not to nurse, to exclusively pump and bottle feed, to stop at one year, to stop at 5 years, etc. Perhaps the "debate" is an outdated concept? Perhaps as education has increased and women know the benefits of breastmilk and of nursing, the word is out. "Breastfeeding is easy, natural, and healthy; here's how to make it work; here are the laws to protect you if you want to do so in public or in the workplace. Now go make a choice that works for your family."
Fancy Nancy 8/04
Snuggle Puppy 5/07
"You know, you really wear me out. But I love you anyway."