RE: Food Allergies and Public Schools ??
When I taught, there was a child at the school with a life-threatening peanut allergy. The way it was set up was that the entire school was supposed to be peanut free in terms of blatant nuts (like no peanut butter, reeses candy, that type of thing). In his classroom it went much further. Besides being 100% no nuts, if you went into the classroom you had to step on this special shoe-washing mat and wash your hands at the door. The child also left each day right before lunch and was homeschooled the 2nd half of the day because he really couldn't be 100% safe in the cafeteria during lunchtime. The school district provided him with a computer for his home, materials, the assignments, and the teacher of the classroom would conference with the mom in terms of what he missed that 2nd half.
That all said, every family with a child in the classroom was approached before the year began, apprised of the situation, and had to agree to the terms set forth. It didn't seem to be a problem in our school, but when I started there he was in 2nd grade so by then maybe the system was in place and there weren't so many feathers being ruffled.
I'm sorry you are having some issues. Your child has just as much right to be there as they do, hopefully you can find an appropriate solution and safe placement for your son.
M, mommy to A 2005, E 2007, and L 2010