Moments ago, on our way back from lunch, we drove by a basset hound. I told DD that Grand (my mom) used to have a couple of basset hounds. She asked where Grand kept them and I told her that they died a long time ago. She asked why they died and DH and I told her that they got very old and their bodies didn't work any more. DD got teary and asked if she'd die. DH and I were *totally* unprepared, which is amazing considering we knew the subject would come up at some point. We said something like "yes, but not for a long, long time." She got even more teary and said she didn't want to die. We mentioned heaven and being with Jesus, but it didn't seem to go over too well.
Help me.
I've never told anyone this (so it seems fitting to tell thousands of people at once, I guess!) but, when I was little, and to a certain degree now if I start obsessing about it, the idea of death absolutely, positively terrified me. I wanted reassurances from my mother of some sort, but she wasn't able to provide them and the idea of death and no longer living on earth was enough to send me into a mini panic attack.
I REALLY don't want DD to have to deal with that, but I have no idea how to approach the whole thing. If anyone has any words of wisdom, I'd love to hear them.
ETA: DD just called me into the other room and asked, "When will I die and how do I get into the sky to get to heaven." She's no longer teary, though.
This is really the first time that DD has talked about/heard that people and animals die. We've mentioned death in relation to plants, etc., but that's it.
Oh, and we have 2 cats (approx. 11yo and 8yo) and DD is wondering about their mortality and when they're going to die.
I really thought that the first time the subject of death arose that it would be one question and answer and then she'd think about it for awhile and DH and I would be able to figure out how to discuss things with her based on her initial question. I was NOT prepared for multiple questions about death and I was NOT ready for her to ask about her own mortality. Yikes.