Originally Posted by
la mama
I'm new to this: being a mom of twins. I love it, I still can't believe it sometimes, two babies, I have two babies. I wasn't prepared to become a spectacle everywhere I go with my twins. I know everyone who says something or asks a question means well, so far at least, but at times it's overwhelming and time consuming to chat with everyone. How do you deal with this? I assume and hope I'm not the only one experiencing this. I don't want to be rude but my babies are only 8 weeks old and I foresee this continuing as they get older. Thanks!
I know exactly what you mean. I so was not ready for that. Mine are now 10 months old and it has gotten a bit better but not much. You'll find some pat answers that feel comfortable for you to say to those dreaded repeat questions. Here's some of mine: "no we don't have twins in the family." "No, they aren't identical- one's a boy and one's a girl." "Yes, we are very busy at home but it's a total joy most of the time."
I've heard of people asking to touch other people's twins but I've never been asked that because of this sign: www.mytinyhands.com. I have 2 of these signs- one on each of their carseat carriers and I HIGHLY recommend them for you- especially with the winter coming on. People want to touch babies all the time and it seems moreso with twins. These signs really help so that YOU don't have to be the mean mommy everytime some excited grandma wants to touch your children when you are out and about. They are $5 a piece and worth every penny.
At some point you just learn to go on shopping while people are standing there ogling your children. You smile, answer a few questions and go back to looking for whatever it is you need whether they are ready to stop talking or not. Most people have seemed to understand that I'm not being rude, I'm just busy.
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