We are also interfaith in the same way you are. I'm Jewish, DH Catholic, making DS a Cashew. Ya got your Russian Jews, ya got your Polish Jews, DS is a Catholic Jew. Heh.
We also intend to raise him both. Catholicism and Judaism go very well together cuz they're very similar. Other than Jesus being the savior, of course. But they're heavy on tradition, repetition, and focus on the Old Testament. We belong to a real average Catholic church that DH never goes to. We don't belong to a synagogue yet, as we're picky. My dad is Jewish and my mom is Catholic (very complicated, don't ask), and she is very active in her church in Chicago. They have a huge interfaith community and are a bit progressive for a Catholic church. Chicago's Mayor Daley belongs to it, too. Anyhoo, they have an interfaith school and do alot of Sunday School with focus on being interfaith.
DS had a baby naming (I don't like briss's; he was snipped in the hospital), and he was also baptized. We had big catered parties at restaurants after each one; they were equal. We were married by a preist and rabbi in a dual ceremony; equal. We feel that as long as DS has the cultural understanding of his family's religious background that he will be well-rounded and can decide for himself later. If we send him for religious education, he will have both for a full view, with all or none of the sacraments and ceremonies. It is up to us as his parents to explain why they're different and what it means to us. Some people think this is impossible. I say anything is possible if we interpret it to be so.
We do Xmas and Hanukkah big time. He gets gifts on Xmas from us and from Santa. He gets three or four nights of gifts on Hanukkah, and each of the other nights, we light the candles but no gifts; instead, we go do a mitzvah for someone, like putting $$ in the salvation army can, buying books for foster kids at Barnes & Noble, buying a toy for toys for tots, or going to Goodwill with something of his he's ready to give up on. Now, last year we were all sick and it was a nightmare, so we didn't get thru all our mitzvahs, but that's ok :-). Of course, we're in headless chicken mode with the nine sides of the family in both faiths and barely have two seconds to ourselves the entire month of December.
Passover and Easter are the only real challenge. DH keeps lent but won't eat fish or pasta (ugh!). So, can you imagine what Passover dinner is like if it happens to fall on Good Friday? Or any Friday? Not. Fun.
I have more I could go into, but this is long already! I'd love to hear how you're doing things, and/or other folks in our situation! Thanks so much for posting this, it's a great thread.
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