Deb,
I am a product of an interfaith couple and was raised with 'no religion' (my parents were athesists). My mother raised me to be ethical, moral, questioning and compassionate while giving me a good overview of both Jewish and Christain religions. Christmas was celebrated in our house more as a secular/cultural thing without any religious overtones. However, not having a religious community was hard on me --partly because I was raised in a small, nearly completely Christain town where church/religious affilation was very important and there was no interfaith community. I often felt very alone and like an outsider. It also didn't help that all of my father's family was in Europe and my mother's one brother was much older and they didn't get along, so we seldom celebrated holidays with any other family. While I think I got a much better education in living a moral and ethical life than many of my peers did at Sunday school, I really wanted to be part of a larger religious community.
Dh was raised very Catholic, although he became disillusioned/angry with the Church while we were dating (won't go into all that). When we decided to marry we postponed our wedding by a year until we could find a religous home where we were both happy. We talked about doing a "his and hers" type of thing, but we wanted our children to be part of something that we all were a part of. We were married by a Unitarian Universalist minister and are very active in that church, although we have to drive nearly 40 miles to attend it. DD was dedicated in it and had a naming ceremony. We love our church, not only for the teachings and inspiration we find there, but also for the enriching, supportive and loving community that has embraced us.
I have to say, being part of a UU church has taught more about the religious traditions of my parents than they were able to. DH and I attend Christmas Eve service and Seders, we celebrate Easter Sunday and the high holy days through the UU church. Our particular UU church has a very high number of Catholic/Jewish couples, so the church reflects that. Our UU minister practices Buddism so there is also a lot of instruction in that practice/faith as well. UU churches can vary a lot, depending on the congregation and the religious viewpoint of the minister.
It sounds like you don't have a lot of interfaith resources (Fairy is soooo lucky) so I would encourage you to at least look into a UU church.
Kerri
I guess after all these years of being a Packers fan, I've also got to start cheering for the "Niners"...
DD 11/09/06
DS 06/09/09