Originally Posted by
JTsMom
Yes, he definitely knew about the sensory/language and cardiac issues. Maybe I'm just a wimp, but I can not even picutre how a discussion with the teacher would go. I was planning on having DH call. (Insert bag over head smiley here)
How do you say to someone, "I saw you jerking kids around by the arm and plunking them down really forcefully. Do you mind not doing that anymore?" And if I did have that convo, what would be the benefit- kwim? It's not like this is the only gymnastics class out there. I've been going over it and over it since it happened, and I came to the conclusion that if I were watching the situation from neutral p.o.v., I would tell another mother to pull her child, so I don't know why I feel at all conflicted about it.... Maybe because it just seemed so out there that someone would do that when he knew the parents were watching? I think the glass is one-way glass though, so maybe he didn't know I was watching?
here is how my script might go:
when i signed up for this class, i made sure the employees were aware of my son's specific needs and challenges and they assured me that this class would still be appropriate for him. i understand how challenging it is to keep active kids engaged and that they can distract other children. however, i was uncomforable with the way you physically restrained the children and roughly sat them down. it can be hard to be creative and find ways to keep them under control, especially when there are two of them, but using force is never acceptable with any child and especially not with MY child who already has a unique situation. i hope you can assure me that this was a one time event and that in the future, you will not use your hands or your strength to control undesired behavior in class but instead, use your voice or ask a parent for help. if you cannot, i am afraid i will have to find another gymnastics class for my child.
Liza has been hangin' around this board for six years.
My sons are 4 and 6. And they are very loud.