I can't believe I don't come in here, what have I been missing!?!
As pregnant, went into pre-term labor at 25 weeks, had to go to OB weekly (and gladly). DH would drop me off at the door and park in the deck. When we were finished I would wait on the bench while he got the car. (was pretty much on full time bed rest) The last 4-5 appts on that bench were nothing but questions from older women waiting on their cars from valet.
'oh my, you're really big, how far along are you!?!' me in monotone voice '29 weeks, I have twins' her 'Oh! do you know what they are' me 'yes, they're boys.' her 'Oh! Do you have names picked out?' me 'can you shut up!!!' (not really) But....I got creative.
'oh my, you're really big, how far along are you?' me in my best clueless hick voice 'I've been pregnant for about a year, the doctor keeps saying the babys not ready.' her..nothing, stunned. I go on 'my friends who've had babies had had them earlier than this, I don't know how long you go, ya know, but I don't think its a year, is it?' still nothing 'I think he's going to be a big boy, don't you? I'm so proud, its my first. I hope the doctor lets me have him soon, we need to buy a carseat and stuff. My aunt gave me her old one, but its real old and smells funny, I may use it anyway.....' Then I realize I may give her a stroke so I tell her I'm kidding, I'm pregnant with twins, etc. I did this to 2 ladies, none found it funny but I sure did!!!
After born (in Nov), the first spring and summer was the worst: From across the mall several times we would hear 'OMG!! Twins!!' Let us all surround their stroller, get close to them and spread our germs! One looks just like my dad and the other looks just like my FIL, nothing alike. After the 'are they identical' and no, most people saw the difference. Once in line at Costco I got the Q, said no. He looked them over very well and asked me seriously 'Are you sure?' (I did get irritated at all the repeated questions everytime we went out) I answered sharply 'I carried and gave birth to them, yeah I'm sure!'
Double Trouble would lite a fire under my ars : ). Especially when they were infants, why say that about 5-6 month old babies!?! After the 3rd time of hearing it in an hour while at the mall I snapped at a lady and said 'How would you feel if I came up to you, a stranger, and said your child was a brat?'
I snapped after that, DH would literally have to haul me away from people if anyone said 'double trouble'. I would just snap at them 'Do you know how rude that is!, bla, bla, bla' with DH dragging me away, lol.
Twins do run in my family, my 2 1/2 sisters had identical twins. Mine were fertility twins and when I answered yes people looked so dissapointed. So to anyone bothered by this Q, answer yes, my sister had twins, or my aunt had twins, etc. People looked so stumped.
'Are they natural?' my answer was 'Are they natural?? Do they look plastic?'
All thats been so long ago, we never get it anymore. At 9 months Jo was in 75th percintile and Noah in 50th. Jonas has grown over Noah ever since. Last summer he was 4 in taller and it has stayed that way. Once in a while we get 'they are so close in age they could be twins' when we tell them they are people are a bit shocked. I just say 'Well, you can definiately tell they aren't identical can't you!'
I personally don't like attention brought to myself and it was hard on me, the attention the twins brought. I just didn't respond well.
Have loved reading the stories, sorry I wrote so much!!
Samantha
Twin Boys - 11/20/05
N. and J. - My heart and hands are full!
The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places. Hemingway