Thanks all who responded to my first questions. A couple follow-ups:
Of background, our DS was a great sleeper before starting the Ferber method. Maybe he just enjoyed being swaddled and rocked...Now it's a lot different. We are really beginning to question whether this was the right thing to do..
We have been following the method pretty much to the book -- increasing the time intervals each night....Night 4 was tonight and it still took about 45 minutes of heavy crying before he (in our opinion) cried himself to sleep.
1.) Does anyone else think this method just teaches a baby to cry himself/herself to sleep? For a boy who seemed to enjoy the getting to bed process (bath, swaddle, rock), we feel he is beginning to associate sleep with a "bad" process
2.) Did anyone else have a baby who immediately sat/stood up when you laid him down on the bed and begin to cry? We have a hard time seeing him not continuing to do that in the future.
3.) What is success here? People say it can take 7 days for this method to work but does that mean he no longer cries when you place him down and he stays lying down? Or does it mean he will only cry for 20 minutes instead of 45 or 60 minutes.
Thanks everyone ahead of time for your thoughts and advice!