Originally Posted by
Jacksmommy2b
We have scheduled sex.
I have always had a super low drive and add to that two very small cosleeping kids and being 4 month PP after some nasty tearing and I could just as likely be a nun.
But sex is very important to M, more so emotionally than just physically so for the time being we have sex day. He never asks knowing he's sure to get it once a week. (and didn't once through my recovery and I waited 13 weeks) I like not having to stress about when/how, how long it's been and if M is feeling frustrated with a lack of lovin'.
I'm sure when S is a little more predictable and sex stops being uncomfortable we'll go back to random, more frequent, and exctiting sex - but for now we're both making do.
So how did you reach this decision? Did you discuss what the schedule would be and when? I'm very intrigued.
For me, like OP, no drive=no sex. And I do find it is a strain on our relationship. DH definitely equates sex to my feelings about him so he takes it personally. And I can tell he feels defeated. But in my defense I have a 3mo and I'm TIRED and I'm breastfeeding and he always waits to initiate when I'm half asleep. I found myself in the same situation and I really, really had to make the effort. Glad to see I'm not alone.
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