So, I have long been bewildered, even shocked, by the level of angst in the sahm v. wohm threads and also the tendency of some to be very, very (very) sensitive and read any remotely ambigious comment as a slight against SAHMs.

However, no more! I went to lecture last week that reported research that, on average, people rated SAHMs as having similar mental competence to the elderly, ill, and mentally ill!! This was shocking to me. I had always thought that some sahms were being much too sensitive and of course no sensible person would judge competency and intelligence based on whether you sah or woh - - esp. given the high numbers that do both across their childraising years. But, alas that is wrong.

Anyway, I now see much more clearly why this is such a hot-button issue. This site is a nice exception where I think people generally do not stereotype . . . but in the wider world sahms are sorely lacking the respect they deserve.