I think the reason that post had the response it did was the rest of the anecdote about replying "I don't know how you send your kid to daycare" (something like that.) I can admire an aggressive response when you feel insulted ---- as someone who tends to be too meek in those situations, I do cheer on women who with more spunk than me. But that was a very provocative thing to say so naturally it brought forth more discussion.But by the same token, how do you think BMFL felt when she posted her feelings on "I don't know HOW you stay at home with your kids." only to then have that very statement defended by other posters?
Was that rude of them, knowing she was hurt by the comment and arguing that it must have been meant in a positive way?
I REALLY don't want to pile on any more. I feel like in threads like these, so many of us get very sensitive. I'm glad the mods kept it open so that we get a chance to clarify / discuss. Even if the discussion is not always fruitful, the opportunity to learn from one another is better than not being able to talk at all. I've learned a thing or two, for sure.
Restraint is beautiful, it's a virtue I know I need to be better at!!Trust me, I have so many opinions that I am trying hard to keep to myself! I keep getting ready to say something, but then I think, "no, that might hurt someone's feelings..." and thus, it is better left unsaid.