This is not directed as sste, who I think started this thread out of genuine interest in the topic, but can we please wave the white flag on this one? I don't want to have initials. I don't need to only ask other WOH mothers what time they put their kids to bed or what they feed them or when they feel it's appropriate to start preschool. I want to know what all moms think. I don't want to see any more threads that start with initials, because I thought the reason that we're all on here is that we're moms, not SAH moms or WOH moms or WAH moms or pt-WOH or ft-blah blah blah.
Fact of the matter is that no one and nothing can be put into neat categories. There is no way on earth that just because I work out of the home, I think and do exactly like every other mother on here who works outside of the home, or that there is even a "way" that work outside the home moms do things or think about things. There is no way on earth that just because other people are stay at home moms, they do or think the same "way." People work for different reasons, people stay home for different reasons, people are happy working, people are unhappy working, people are happy at home, people are unhappy at home.
People's experiences, families, goals, desires, you name it are all far too unique to lump people together the way they seem to get lumped together when you start labeling. These threads start, and everyone's basis for "knowing" what all stay at home moms are like or all work outside the home moms are like and what all of their kids are like comes rolling out. My daughter is not your work outside the home neighbor's daughter, so don't assume she is. I don't assume your stay at home daughter is like my stay at home neighbor's daughter.
Bottom line: We're here because we're moms (and dads ) or about to become moms or dads. Can't that be enough?
Jen, mom to my silly monkey, 10/06