Thanks, I would normally not want to see him at this point as well.. However, my trusted friend has taken her son to see him several times and her daughter has seen him as well. I will check in with my friend on his comments to me to get her take on it (she has since moved, so I will need to call or e-mail her), but my guess is he is just kind of clueless about this specific issue or has a big ego and thinks he himself would be immune to some of the things that are true for other people (scaring an anxious kid, what it feels like to have a man standing over your bed while sleeping, etc).
Anyway, we now have a daytime office appt for the end of May
lucky single mom to 20 yr old dd and 17 yr old ds through 2 very different adoption routes