My 4.5yr. old DD has been attending a montessori schools since she was 2.5. She's healthy, very loving, loves to socialize with other kids. She just does not like to speak up in front of other people. She'll either do a baby soft voice or say nothing. I speaking in front of other people is terrifying for most people including myself, but how do I get her to overcome this fear at this early age. She does love to be the line leader where a child is chosen to begin the class lead the class in counting the days of the calendar and the teacher will ask the line leader questions e.g. who's the president? how many stars? She'll answer these but in a babyish voice. How do I build up her confidence to speak up and like how she sounds? She has told me before that she does not like her voice. We do try to give her positive feedback in other things she likes to do like drawing, puzzles or dancing. Another area where we also notice her lack of confidence is that she focuses too much attention on what she wears to school. If she does not like it she will not wear it. She will cry if she puts on something that she does not think others will compliment. I tell her all the time that she is beautiful inside and out and clothes are not important, but I do not think she gets that yet. She just will saying, mommy stop talking. We've had her on all the afters school activities for about one year like Yoga, Karate, Ballet and Gymnastics. Its convenient for our working schedule and we thought that this would build her confidence. She likes all of them except Karate, but we have not really seen an improvement in her confidence with these activities.
Any advice, books, camps, activities to build up my DD's confidence? I am just not sure how to help her.
Thanks,
Gaby