Punkin is 6. He and I have always gotten along really well and for a long time, he and I would spend 90% of our time together since I'm a SAHM and he was an only child until he was 5 and Boo came along. He loves kindergarten, but the K program at his school is only 3.5 hours a day- he gets home at 12:30. He's a pretty independent kid, has always been pretty content playing by himself, which was a blessing when I had to have 2 surgeries before preg. with Boo and had bad sciatica during the pregnancy with Boo. But in the afternoons when Boo is napping, I'd like to spend some quality time with Punkin. He's active in sports and DH takes him to most of his team practices so I can stay home to make dinner and let Boo finish napping, etc. He loves playing sports, but I'm not really athletic and am not into scrimmaging soccer with him or teaching him to perfect his football throw like DH does. We used to read together a lot, but now that he is a really strong reader, he prefers to read by himself.
So we got into playing board games together, but he has a very strong competitive nature and he gets mad and frustrated when I do well and he doesn't. I've tried to take those opportunities as "teachable moments" to show him it's just fun to play even when you don't win, but lately he doesn't buy into that - he just gets mad and often says things he then gets in trouble for, so I end up telling him we're not going to play that game together anymore (and we've burned through pretty much all the games we have, now.)
He likes to help me when I bake something, but I don't do that often. I usually have stuff I need to do, but I'd also like do do things with him while it's just the 2 of us. I just feel like I'm at a loss as to how to engage with him lately- I am and was always more of a girly-girl. I don't have any brothers, so boys this age are pretty foreign to me. I hate saying it, but I kinda feel like we have very little in common- is that normal?? Any ideas to help me make that connection with him? Thanks.