DS is 14 months tomorrow
he is a very animated little guy. he is often extremely cheerful and pleasant, but he seems to have a very low threshold for frustration and his mood will shift in a moments notice
as an example of what i mean:
this morning as i was leaving for work, he had toddled over to his FP laugh & learn home and was playing with the clock
he had previously figured out that spinning the hands of the clock past a certain point on the dial will make the clock bong and then play music
for some reason, this morning he couldn't seem to get it turn. not sure why, but he tried it twice and then totally lost it. his frustration seemed to totally overwhelm him and he threw his body on the floor and was screaming and kicking like he was being killed. and then he pulled up to sitting and looked for ways to "lash out." his closest target was the dog and he began hitting him in the head and then grabbed his fur and yanked as hard he could (DS's body was visibly shaking with the effort of his yank)
poor dog screamed and ran into another room and DS then turned on my mom who was running over to get him off the dog
this kind of "tantrum" is not uncommon these days. i recognize that he is at an age where his mind is ahead of his body - his hands may not be as nimble as he wants, he doesn't speak/can't communicate, his walking is still tenuous
but his level of anger is really so shocking. and it is so swift. he seems to have no patience whatsoever.
AND making the anger seem more frightening is that he will intentionally seek a physical outlet that will "hurt" a living thing. he is not content punching the floor or kicking a pillow. he will go after one of his caretakers or the dog and "attack" with hits, punches, kicks, bites, etc.
DH called me at work to ask if there was "someone we could hire to help us help DS sooner rather than later." similar to another thread started this morning, we are very afraid that we are going to have a child that no one wants to be around b/c of his temper and our inability to help him control it
i honestly don't know the answer to DH's question. is this just a phase? is there anything we should be doing to specifically work on patience and "anger management" (is this even possible at his age?)
any specific books you would suggest?
thanks