I had a doula for my first birth 6.5 years ago. She was fairly affordable, and I wanted to do everything I could to "stack the deck" in favor of an unmedicated delivery. I knew very few people who had gone unmedicated (my mom did, but most of my family had gone w/ epidurals, and we were among the first of our friends to have a baby). I used Hypnobirthing the first time around and ended up feeling very comfy during labor and not really "needing" the doula all that much. But she was great about reminding me to stay hydrated, and she basically stayed out of the way since I was feeling fine. The only time I was really uncomfy during most of that labor was when hooked up to the intermittent EFM. The doula played the "bad guy" role by nicely pressing my nurse to figure out how to hook me up to the EFM so I could be on hands and knees in the bed, or on the birthing ball, etc. as sitting in bed was very uncomfortable. It was nice to have her take on that role and not have to worry about DH or I dealing with that part. She was polite and nice about it...the nurse wasn't happy but it was totally doable with just a little more work on her part.
Our doula also was worth her weight in gold during transition. That was the only part of that labor that was really, really intense for me. When my legs got shaky she knew just the right type of touch to use, kwim? DH would have been kinda clueless at that point.
She also was a photojournalistic photographer on the side and got some amazing shots of DS as a newborn (at my request in advance).
I didn't have a doula for my last 2 births, but worked with midwives that were more supportive/present than my CNM that I used with DS1. THe first birth (with the doula) was in a hospital. The 2nd birth was in a freestanding birth center (different state) so also a different setting. DS2 was born at home, and I never missed having a doula in that setting. But yeah, in a hospital, I was glad to have one.
I don't think they are a necessity, but I think they can help stack the deck in your favor if you feel strongly about going unmedicated or don't feel confident you'll have good labor support from your partner.
Last edited by brittone2; 08-02-2010 at 10:46 AM.
Mama to DS-2004
DD-2006
and a new addition-ds born march 2010