DS turned out to be a very needy sleeper. So it's gone like this:
First 3 months: bassinet in our room, but often in our bed.
Next 3 months: crib in own room, but nearly always ended up in our bed.
Next year and a few months: our bed (we stopped fighting it and and decided to just let everyone get some sleep)
Before age two: Pack -n- Play next to our bed, to get him used to sleeping alone, with a gradual transition to sleeping in his crib in his own room.
Next couple of months: DS in crib in his own room, DH and I took turns sleeping on his floor with a hand in the crib.
A little over 2 years old: twin bed in own room, DH or I in the twin bed for part of the night.
Ages 3-5: own bed, own room
Age 6 (current): own bed half the time, comes to our bed half the time.
Gena
DS, age 11 and always amazing
“Autistics are the ultimate square pegs, and the problem with pounding a square peg into a round hole is not that the hammering is hard work. It's that you're destroying the peg." - Paul Collins, Not Even Wrong