I can relate to most of that, too. Painful intercourse for 10 years before DC, great attraction pre-marriage, great loss of attraction afterwards, little or no foreplay.
Do you remember what it was that attracted you before? For me, a big factor was the kissing. If whatever it was is something you can get back to, that might help.
ETA: You may find some ideas from this old thread helpful: http://www.windsorpeak.com/vbulletin/showthread
Last edited by MoJo; 11-19-2010 at 04:16 PM.
Reason: found old thread I thought might help
Jo
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DD#2 "Ha" 6/10
"Theory is great, but as I'm in the trenches of diapers and dishes and ear infections, I try to relax and focus on what's most important: love."--mjs64