Indigo99, you sound so much like me. I was definitely wearing maternity clothes to my first OB appointment at 8 weeks. I didn't weigh myself my last week, but I was definitely around (& maybe over) 200 lbs when my 2nd was born. NO ONE said anything about my weight, and I'm taking it from your OB that she won't, either.
The dress I wore to the hospital with #1 was outgrown in the second trimester, and I ended up needing new, bigger maternity clothes to get me through the rest of the pregnancy. But baby #2's birth weight was within 4 oz of #1.
The good news for me was that I found it much easier to lose weight after #2, so now I'm finally back to what I weighed before my first. That didn't happen for me between pregnancies, either. I still want to lose weight, but the baby weight is gone.
Jo
DD#1 "JellyBean" 6/08
DD#2 "Ha" 6/10
"Theory is great, but as I'm in the trenches of diapers and dishes and ear infections, I try to relax and focus on what's most important: love."--mjs64