DH and I knew we were going to have one and only one. No matter what gender our child was, I KNOW I would have had to grieve for the boy/girl I was not going to have. In my case, I grieved for the dresses I'd never get to sew, secrets we girls would never share, etc. I think it's totally normal, and in no way diminished the excitement I felt about the boy I did have. He is truly my sunshine.
ETA: I actually chose to find the gender before the birth so that I would have time to go through this process. I won't lie, I cried, even though I was thrilled to be having a boy. YKWIM?
Last edited by larig; 02-12-2011 at 02:15 PM.
L, mommy to my one and only, super-sweet boy, G 6/08
I'm pro-big bird, and I vote.