Hugs. I know what you mean. It's really hard when friends and family don't get it.
One of my close friends recently called me because she was concerned about her 2.5 year old daughter's development. It turns out that her DD doesn't hold a crayon correctly. She's ahead in all other areas of development, but hasn't yet mastered the tripod grasp. My friend was very worried and thought I would understand. All I could think was "Really, this your huge developmental concern? That there is one area where your child is not ahead of the curve? Wow."
Gena
DS, age 11 and always amazing
“Autistics are the ultimate square pegs, and the problem with pounding a square peg into a round hole is not that the hammering is hard work. It's that you're destroying the peg." - Paul Collins, Not Even Wrong