Originally Posted by
hellokitty
Pre-kids, I wanted 2 kids. In my crazy mind, I thought I'd end up with one boy and one girl or two girls. NEVER, EVER, in a million yrs did I ever fathom the idea that I would have two boys and no girls, don't ask me why, it just never occurred to me to think about that possibility. So of course, b/c THAT was the option I had not considered, that is what I would end up with. I openly admit that I went for #3 to, "get my girl." Well, of course I would end up with another boy and yes, I'm pretty bitter about it. I had hyperemesis with all three of my pregnancies, so I am NOT a person who does well with being pregnant and I regret not just having gone the adoption route for #3. I love DS3, but I do not think I will ever get over the loss of never getting the dd that I always yearned for since I was a young child myself (I wanted a sister, but got two younger brothers instead and my mom told me that *someday* I would have a daughter, she totally set me up for disappointment). We are done, DH had a vasectomy. I am convinced I could keep having babies and they will all be boys, b/c that is the kind of luck I have. If I really want something, the universe just won't let me have it, story of my life.
Ironically, DH wanted 3 kids pre-marriage and then after we got married he only wanted two. I think that it had to do with our POV growing up in our families. I came from a 3 kid family and was the child who was always left out (GBB family, and my brothers were only 15 mo apart, so very close and shared a bdrm), DH grew up with just he and his brother and always wished he had a younger sister. Had I ended up with two girls or 1 girl, 1 boy, I would never have had a third child. Two has always been, "perfect" in my mind, except that it didn't work out that way for us.
ETA: That yes, I did deal with infertility issues, so I am thankful that I have children at all. However, I had always envisioned myself having a daughter and just took for granted that I would have a dd. So, it's one of those life dreams that will never be fulfilled for me.