A shower is not about the gifts! Its about celebrating a new life, its about honoring the mom and thanking her for bearing this child.

In my culture a shower is about the grandparents thanking their SIL & DIL for providing an heir, another generation of their bloodline. They get gifts from the mom & dad (traditionally clothing items). The celebration involves all family and friends. Food is a big part of the celebration, most of the times a potluck.

The yet to be born child does not get gifts. It is traditional to give the child gifts when you "meet the baby" after it is born.

A second baby is as important as the first one...have a "sprinkle" - if thats what it takes here to mean practical gifts for sec time around parents, because you and the baby deserve to be celebrated!