i am about to lose my mind. i am seriously considering going back to work sooner than planned so i don't have to deal with this during the day! it is so frustrating.
for whatever reason, putting my DD (3.5months, 2.5mo adjusted) down for naps has been such a struggle lately. it literally takes me HOURS of trying to get her down. eventually i give up and put her in the swing, or just let her fuss/cry whenever. it is exhausting because i have DS too, and i literally can't be spending the entire day trying to get DD down for a nap.
basically the sequence goes like this. she wakes up for the day around 8am, around 9:45 or 10am she starts fussing, seems like she's tired, i nurse her, she seems to get sleepy, then i burp her, and wakes up a little and still is fussy. i rock her (standing up, i can't sit down in a glider anymore, she will fuss unless i stand up). then after 5-10 minutes of me walking around etc she falls asleep. Perfect, right? Then i put her down, she stirs a little, but falls back asleep. Still perfect. Then in about 2-5 minutes, she WAKES UP!! Then her arms are failing around. Sometimes she just lies there awake for like 20 minutes before crying, but nonetheless, it's bad because she should be sleeping and it is only a matter of time before she wakes up. Eventually I go get her, sometimes check/change her diaper, etc then rock her again. Within 10 mins, she is out again, and i put her down, within minutes she is awake and fussing again. The sequence repeats, and this literally goes on for HOURS. meanwhile my DS is fussing bc he is hungry or needs a diaper change, or whatever.
It's not like DD is a light sleeper or needs total silence or anything. Yesterday my DD did not nap until 2:15pm, when i gave up and put her in the swing. Around 4:30 my DS woke up, and i figured DD should probably wake up too. He was right next to her slamming toys down and making a huuge ruckus and she was not phased AT ALL, she stayed asleep until 6:30pm!! the problem seems to be getting her to nap during the day. nights are ok...she went down at 8:30 and didn't wake up until 3:15 to nurse. then she went back down and woke up at 8:00am. so she usually does ok falling asleep on her own at night... it boggles my mind why naps are such a problem for her.
What sucks is that the longer i try to get her to nap, the more tired/fussy she gets and the harder and harder it is to get her to sleep. i really want to get her on some sort of schedule but it's just so hard with her naps being so random.
I want to do CIO but apparently it's still too early for that, considering she was born 5-6 weeks early. Any other suggestions?? This is so frustrating!! I don't remember my DS being this difficult.
eta: i try to put her down in her room, i have a noise machine and some music playing, the blinds drawn, etc. doesn't seem to help.