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    Default How do you handle the alcohol issue at parties (early pregnancy)???

    Ok, so we have a family function to go to tomorrow. Usually at family functions, if there is alcohol, I am always drinking. I'm only 6 weeks along and don't feel it's appropriate to tell family that i'm pregnant (i have had 2 early miscarriages before). BUT if I turn down a drink they will all know something is up. Not sure what to do. And they asked us to bring the beer/sangria to boot!!!!! I'll probably get flamed for this but I was thinking of walking around with a sangria with lots of ice and taking just a sip or two?? And hopefully no one will notice it's still the first glass 4 hrs later.....

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    I think your idea is fine. I have walked around with a mostly empty beer bottle at parties so I don't get asked why I'm not drinking. Or there are the usual excuses: on a prescription and told not to drink, headache, upset stomach, drank too much last night, etc.

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    You could tell them that you are watching your weight and avoiding the empty calories. I also will do things like get a glass with cranberry juice and let people assume it is cranberry with vodka. The same with tonic water only without the gin.
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    I think your plan is fine. I did something similar when I went to book club at 8 weeks pregnant. Those ladies are always watching who is drinking and will call you on it (in a friendly way). I too had 3 early losses so I wasn't ready to out myself until after our NT test.
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    You can also tell them you are the DD so you can't drink at all or can't drink much. If you have a drink in your hand I'm sure they won't notice it's alcohol free!
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    When I had to go to a wedding newly pregnant, I had the bartender make fruity drinks or clear drinks (sprite) so it looked like I was drinking alcohol. No one ever questioned it.
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    I would try to carry a non-alcoholic drink in a glass that looks alcoholic.
    If that's not possible, I would go with your plan except for the sipping (NOT judging you or flaming you). I would spill some down the sink and carry it around half-full

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    I did the POAS thing on 4th of July the year I got pregnant and DH didn't want his mom to suspect anything so he took an empty aluminum Miller Lite bottle & filled it with water for me.

    Unfortunately, he made such a big production of it, his mom suspected it anyway but she had the decency not to say anything until we were ready to tell her.
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    "Thanks, but I'm the designated driver tonight."
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    Quote Originally Posted by L'sMommy View Post
    And they asked us to bring the beer/sangria to boot!!!!! I'll probably get flamed for this but I was thinking of walking around with a sangria with lots of ice and taking just a sip or two?? And hopefully no one will notice it's still the first glass 4 hrs later.....
    I would do that with no problem at all if it made me feel better and less nervous about people thinking you are pregnant. With DD1 I had my 10 yr. high school reunion three days after I found out I was pregnant with DD1. It was easier for me to have a single beer there and a glass of wine at my parents house. With DD2 we went to my parents house over labor day weekend I had a few glasses of wine there over the four days we were there. I didn't stress out about it.

    Just do what you are comfortable with. Congratulations
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