Hugs. You're in a very hard place right now. I remember being there.
The good news is that you realize there are issues and you are getting started now, while your child is still very young. That's huge!
The even better news is that there are things you can do now. Look into The Hanen Programs. These programs train you the parent on how to help encourage your child's language development. Ask your child's SLP about this. Or your local library may have some of their materials. Or you can attend their parent training sessions.
Find out if there are resources for the PLAY Project in your area. This is a form of play therapy sometimes called "Floortime". The PLAY project is targeted towards children with Autism, but please don't let that scare you. It concentrates on parent and child playing together to build communication and relational skills. Many children with language delays benefit from this approach.
Get a copy of The Late Talker: What to Do If Your Child Isn't Talking Yet . This is an excellent book that talks about langiage delays vs. language disorders. It focuses mainly on Childhood Apraxia of Speech, which is a problem with oral motor development. It sounds like this might be part of what you are dealing with. This book has a lot of good information about testing, diagnosis, treatment, and things you can do at home. Again, your local library may have a copy.
Here are a couple of good websites:
http://www.speech-express.com/
http://www.apraxia-kids.org/
http://www.cherab.org/information/sp...alapraxia.html
Hang in there! And remember there are a lot of parents here who have been through this sort of thing.
Gena
DS, age 11 and always amazing
“Autistics are the ultimate square pegs, and the problem with pounding a square peg into a round hole is not that the hammering is hard work. It's that you're destroying the peg." - Paul Collins, Not Even Wrong