TMI ahead
I trying to be, ahem, "pure" until I'm married; I had way too much fun in my younger years, and I want it to be special again. I've been on this quest for 4 years now, which means actual intercourse is a memory from a different time. However, I've dated a 3 men since my attitude change. Only 1 of those men had an issue with no intercourse, however, he had many issues (I left when he commented "If I didn't love you, I would have raped you by now, and you doubt me?")....
So, here's what I've discovered/done:
As others have said, most things can be done over clothes (touching, rubbing, toys). I wear an Instead cup just in case it becomes more that just some rubbing.
Never underestimate the fun of getting a little "feel" in. A swat passing by in the kitchen, a little grab while the kids aren't watching, etc. And I will admit that I would sometimes ask for a footrub, and when he would turn himself on the couch to reach my foot better, I would rub my foot somewhere Sometimes just reminding him that I can make his body do certain things is enough to get some attention! LOL Sometimes men need to be reminded that touching is fun too.
A "dirty" text can be entertaining. Text him a picture of a hard nipple with a note that you were thinking about him. Or tell him what you want to do to him when you can be together again. (I will admit when ex-SO did this [when we were still dating, obviously], it made me more interested in being together again. I have probably 20-30 texts of him, with notes about how he couldn't enjoy his trip to Hawaii without me because he kept thinking about the time we did x, y, z, whatever. And I got pictures showing "how much" he missed me. )...
And every once in a while, we'd have a "me day", where he has taken care of his needs when I was at work or whatever, and he focused on nothing but the ways he can bring me the joy he gets when he's not allowed near certain areas.
However, with most of my prior relationships, sometimes you have to flat out say "This is what I need." Romantic? No. Necessary? Totally. They can't read our minds anymore than we can read theirs. The only difference, I think is we know they are hard-wired to think about sex 6 times a minute. Since most women aren't like that, we need to tell them what we like. All the more so, IMO, because not everyone likes everything the same way. A touch that may make me consider doing xyz may make you run for the hills. So, it's unromantic, but most men need to be told "I know we can't have sex, but I miss you copping a feel" or "I love the anticipation of doing xyz when my period is done". Chances are, if you give him an obvious hint, he will run with it!
--Mimi
Mom to Lala (2004), Bonus Mom to Big Sis 1 (1991) and Big Sis 2 (1992)
Grammy to Big Kindy Kid (2011), Big Pre-K Kid (2012),
Grandbaby Appendage (2014), and New Baby Grandboy (summer 2017)