I have been with DH for 13 years. I know he loves me, and that I turn him on.
He is in a perpetual state of arrousal if I so much as touch his cheek. Dirty old bastard.
So WHY does it take him so long to "finish" when we DTD? I am almost always done in 5-15 minutes, and just want to go to bed. Without getting too dirty here, I have tried EVERYTHING.
He takes FOREVER (usually 45 minutes or more). It has been making me avoid sex. I cannot stand these marathon sessions.
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10-13-2011 #1
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How long does it take you? (sex)
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It sounds like you're doing it too often. DTD less often and he'll probably finish faster.
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any way to make it seem like a favor to him to offer 'quickies'? that way maybe you can save the marathons for when you'd *like* a marathon.
mama to j karst, former 25 weeker, 12/06
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I feel your pain!!!!
DH used to be a 2 minute wonder. I wanted to have sex all the time back then.
Then we had kids. He claims I dont do it enough but I feel like 90% of the reason is that it takes him forever to climax. I dont know what happened in 5 years. But sex can be like an hour long it seems like. I get tired. I want to go to sleep. And we arent having it too often either. So thats not the problem.
I've told him this is why I avoid it. I dont know what I can do about it either.DD 11/2005
DS 4/2008
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What's sex???
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Jo, have you discussed this with him in a neutral environment? Something completely unsexy like folding the laundry?
He's not stupid, he probably knows what's going on. Might be a medical issue, or might be that after a few kids things have loosened up down there and there isn't as much friction as there used to be. (ask me how I know this...)
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DD1 5/04 and DD2 3/07
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Originally Posted by Giantbear
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Originally Posted by Giantbear
Giantbear, you at least did it once....right?!Mommy to a total chatterbox
DD now tells me she prefers to be known as a
DD 10/08
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10-13-2011 #9
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Sometimes it's quick, sometimes it's not. He seems to take longer in the mornings for some reason. If I'm in charge, I can make sure he lasts longer.
But I'm with you, 45 minutes is a long time. I'd be tired and sore, too.
ETA: Oh, I'd also definitely talk to him about it in a neutral time/place. Maybe he thinks he needs to hold out longer for you? My husband thought that for a while. Ugh.
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OP, is this something new or has he always been this way?
-Pam
DD: 6 YO
DS: 3 YO
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