How long does it take you? (sex)

[daisymommy]

4 minutes...no way. I don't believe that for a second. If it makes you feel any better.
Most men would be totally embarrassed if that were the case.
45 minutes if they are really trying is a long time though...sorry!

[Katigre]

4 minutes...no way. I don't believe that for a second. If it makes you feel any better.
Most men would be totally embarrassed if that were the case.
45 minutes if they are really trying is a long time though...sorry!

I think the 4 minutes means constant fast/steady thrusting - not just time from insertion to climax with varying speeds of movement in between (there's a reason a quickie is so quick vs. a longer lovemaking session of 10-20 minutes, yk?). I would also guess that the 4 minute number includes younger men/inexperienced men who haven't learned how to pace themselves and manage all that stimulation.

[hillview]

We tend to either be 2 minutes OR 30 mins (SIGH) ... so I'd caution saying 4 mins is "no way"

[Aishe]

I don't have any advice, but I bet Dan Savage would have a solution for you.

[lalasmama]

XH was (eventually) like this. I would be a satisfied customer, and he would be going at it.... and at it... and at it still.... and it takes me a while to finish, so this meant it could take us over an hour, from start to snuggles, on nights we had to get up early in the morning. One thing that always worked (haha, for him, though they market it for women!) is a... ummmm... no idea how to put this delicately.... Not a "real" c0ck ring, but one of those rubber rings with a "bullet" vibe-thingy in it. Heck, even Walmart sells them in with the condoms (one of the condom makers makes a version). We would turn it upside down, so it was hitting the base/upper scrotum for him. Almost always helped him hurry things along A LOT faster.

I was looking for a link online, but my computer is downloading too slowly. How fitting for the thread, huh?

[SnuggleBuggles]

I think it is a bit judgmental to say men would have a problem with that. Also not ok to imply that there is something wrong with that. I think that years of experience together can lead to creating a situation that is mutually acceptable for both parties. Some want longer, some don't. Not always a matter of what they are capable of but more what= pleasure for the couple.

Beth

[tiapam]

He has ALWAYS been like this. Although in his younger years, he'd be ready for 2-3 marathon sessions in a row. I'm glad that's over.

Can someone tell me more about quicker creams? I Googled and can't find anything like that.

IMO it is a medical problem. Because that timing is not the norm. That is not the way it is supposed to work. Biologically speaking, it is supposed to be efficient. I would insist on a doctor appt.

[SnuggleBuggles]

Do you guys use condoms?

[sntm]

Does he take antidepressants?

[Giantbear]

seriously, what is this sex you keep speaking of??