As a victim of bullying myself, though never on the physical level, I feel for you and your DS. It made grammar school very difficult until I learned new skills to turn it back on the bullies. But it took a LONG time and I wasn't always consistent.
I think that you did what you thought was right at the time, escalated the situation to the appropriate people and ... they still didn't take appropriate action.
Now, you're forced to follow through on a threat about leaving that I think you made during the initial bullying situation and I am sure that can't be easy. I know you don't take the decision lightly! I just hope that wherever your DS goes next is supportive of him and his needs.
Hearing that your DS is making statements that he wants to give up and doesn't want to live really hurts me and I don't even know you guys IRL.
I can't imagine what it's like for you as his mom.
Your DS sounds like a wonderful kid with so very much to offer to this world.
Sending you and your family major P&PT. And a big
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Liz
DD (3/2010)
"Make mistakes! Get messy!" - Miss Frizzle