I really don't know what else to title this. I'm just feeling stuck, kind of frustrated, kind of confused. DH and I had a meeting at DS's school today. It was us, his teacher, the reading specialist, his OT, the vice principal and the school psych. The purpose was to discuss ideas for additional support services for DS, before we officially update his IEP.
Everyone was very nice and professional. I do believe they want to help DS, and the meeting was pleasant enough. But I'm just frustrated by how long everything takes. Despite the private testing report we supplied, which provides test results and diagnoses, they still must "prove" he qualifies for additional help in certain areas (math and writing). Everyone admitted there isn't much doubt that he'll qualify, but of course they have to collect data to prove it. It really isn't time intensive or anything for DS, but they have to collect data over a 4 week period. This puts us meeting next in early April, and I'm guessing it will probably be mid-April before anything really happens. The school year ends at the end of May.
Also, while they are allowing the reading specialist to use the reading methods from DS's Davis dyslexia program, they weren't very open to other techniques taught by this program, or other methods I've researched that work well with dyslexics. Bottom line is, DS will probably eventually be pulled for more intensive help in a more individualized or small group setting, but the curriculum will remain the same. We keep asking ourselves - if the school curriculum hasn't been working for him, and the only gains he's made this year happened with the Davis Dyslexia program, how is doing more of the school curriculum going to help? I asked if I might come to school for a bit each day to do some of these methods with him, but they stated this qualifies as parental tutoring and is not permitted. I guess that makes sense, but my only agenda is to do these methods with him without taking any additional resources. By the time we get to this work after school, he is ready to play and just be a kid. I hate having to make him do all of this extra stuff because it can't get incorporated into his school day.
We are really thinking about homeschooling with dual enrollment (sending DS in the afternoon for specials) but it's kind of scary. DH has some uncertainty with his job, I work part time, and we'll have to talk about how all this will look.
I guess that's all...I can't even think of how to conclude my thoughts! Hopefully we'll get some clarity soon. Thanks for readng.