My marriage is over.
That is to say, it was over long ago. I realized it six months ago when I found out he was cheating.. but I still wanted to fix things. Tonight he confessed to another emotional affair that happened before the others.
And I'm done.
I'm so scared, though. I have no idea how I will support my children. I've applied for public housing, but it will be at least six months, and that's extremely hopeful. Many lists in this area are years long, or simply closed. My parents' house will be foreclosed upon in another two, maybe three months. What am I supposed to do with that gap? We only have one car, and it's in his name. Does he take it, or do I? I suppose he could buy a little cheap car.. we have $10k in a savings account that we were going to use to take the kids to Disney next January. The logistics are just.. mind boggling. Not to mention how we will go about breaking the news to our kids, and the fallout that will come from him leaving.
I'm just.. devastated. I have nobody that I can go to for support. Nobody whose shoulder I can cry on. How am I going to manage this?
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03-01-2012 #1
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03-01-2012 #2
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Oh, Rachel, I have no words of wisdom but I couldn't read without replying. Huge, huge hugs. I wish I could be there in person for you to be your shoulder to cry on.
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03-01-2012 #3
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I am so sorry. You have been through so much. Do you have any other family or friends who can be of any support to you and the kids during this time?
Again, I am so very sorry.SAHM to Pete and Repeat my "Irish Twins" - DD 12/06 and DS 11/07
Never argue with an idiot. He'll bring you down to his level, then beat you with experience.
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I'm so sorry.
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You will find a way.
You're stronger than you think.Alicia
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So sorry!
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I'm so sorry for all that you're going through.
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I am so sorry.
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03-01-2012 #9
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Hugs. It is going to be tough, but you WILL manage since there is no other alternative. I think you should split savings, or spend them to buy you a good used car.
Your priority should be figuring out where to live (and reassuring your kids that you both love them). Is there anybody you can stay with? I'd be contacting every single person and agency/organization that I can think of if I were you. Can you stay with your ILs?Mom to DS born on Thanksgiving 2003
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03-01-2012 #10
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I'm so sorry, I really have no words of advice
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