Originally Posted by
twowhat?
At that age I did a LOT of redirecting and just simply saying "no". I know some experts would say that saying No isn't enough and instead of using the word "No", replace it with a "yes" kind of sentence. "Pulling hair hurts. If you're frustrated, let's go find something else to do". When I tried that, it sometimes helps (I guess it helps to be told what they CAN do vs CAN'T). But honestly, there often wasn't much I could do. Twins fight A LOT and I don't blame them. It's hard having to share EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME with virtually no break. We try getting our twins out 1 on 1 (DH takes one to grocery, I take the other on a different errand) but even that is hard when family time is so precious.
Anyway, this is one of those "power through" things, I think. Keep redirecting and and just try to get in as much individual twin time as you can.
That was pretty much our strategy as well. With us, it was constant biting. If it got really bad, and both DH and I were around, we'd try to separate the biter. But it is really hard to both administer a consequence and console the other twin at the same time.
I think age 2.5 to 3 was when the biting got really bad. They are now 3.5 and it is much better. They do still fight (hit, bite, pinch, grab, etc...) but it is not as frequent as it was a year ago.
We do make them apologize and hug and kiss afterwards. They don't really resist doing that and it is just about the sweetest thing in the world!
Good luck!
DS - 10
DD - 8
Twin Girls - 6