Today we received the dreaded phone call from the school. Please come and pick up your son as he is having too rough of a day to continue. The teacher couldn't handle him any more. I pretty much cried the whole way through the school getting to his room. I was so scared he was being suspended. He was not suspended and I signed him out as sick.
His holiday program is tomorrow. He had a subsitute aide today. He doesn't speak but has actually said two new words at school last week and repeated one of the words today. We know from past history that when he is on the cusp of a new breakthrough that his behavior goes downhill. Teacher understand this but she said she just couldn't take getting hit anymore today. The teacher is very understanding and said she loves my son and it shows. He always gives him a big hug and he expects it from her. She said that today when doing an activity she didn't say "good job DS1" at the end of the activity. He got so mad he narrowed his eyes and started hitting his hands on the table and then grabbed her wrist and wouldn't let go.
WI had a new state law that anytime a child needs to be restrained or hits that a form needs to be completed. In the past three weeks I've received two forms and tomorrow will receive two more for today. His regular ed teacher told me he hasn't been in her room for 3 weeks due to practice for the holiday program. I am so worried about all of these forms going into his permanent file. Some day I will be placing him in a group home. Will that group home request his school files and see these forms? Will they decline to take him because of a pattern/history of violance? Am I over reacting???
I am frustrated!!!!!!! I feel bad for his teachers and aides. Just because he doesn't injury/leave marks when he hits doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt physically and mentally. His teacher told me he is working great but transitions are just very tough for him right now. We both agree that he is working through something in his little brain and just can't do that and have good behavior. I just want him to be able to do both. I've waited 9 years to hear him begin to speak. Are we on the cusp? Have we turned the cornor and he will now begin to speak?