I am so sorry. I hope you get in with a therapist soon. Also, please schedule a medical checkup. Take care of yourself.
I am so sorry. I hope you get in with a therapist soon. Also, please schedule a medical checkup. Take care of yourself.
I'm so, so sorry for all that you're going through. But I wanted to reiterate that you absolutely, positively should not feel embarrassed about how you're feeling and that you want things to work out. The person who should be embarrassed is the f'ing whore you took your DH in while he had a wife and babies at home, and your DH. I just don't understand women who do that and I have no respect for them.
No one here thinks you're a doormat. We all know you to be a strong, incredibly loving mom who just wants the life she envisioned for her family. We're all rooting for you here no matter what path you choose to take.
I am so sorry to read your update. And I will echo all the other posters that you are NOT pathetic or a doormat and should not be embarrassed! It's perfectly natural to want everything to be fine/how it used to be.
You are strong and you will get through this. But please, start with getting some support for yourself, by calling a doctor or therapist.
"Every mother needs a wife." - Amy Poehler, Yes Please
I'm so sorry that your fears were confirmed. I wish you all the strength you need to get through this.
Don't feel like you are pathetic or a doormat. Wanting to fix your marriage should not be something to be ashamed of. I just want you to know that someone VERY close to me dealt with infidelity in their marriage. The couple actually separated for a time, but they committed to fixing their relationship and they have. I actually believe that their marriage is better than when they first got married in some ways.
I just wanted to let you know it is not necessarily a hopeless situation. It won't be easy...but it isn't hopeless. Please take care of yourself!
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DS - Adopted by loving parents 1995
DS1 7/2009 ('Stachio)
DS2 9/2011 (Peanut)
I'm so sorry to ready your update. I have a pit in my stomach for you. You are an amazing and strong woman and mother and do NOT forget that. No matte where this takes you, your marriage and family, remember who you are and that you can do anything. I don't think that you wanting nothing more than your marriage back makes you a doormat. Those were his actions while you were upholding your end of the marriage.
I hope you come to a decision that is best for you and your family. Therapy can do wonders if both parties are willing to do whatever it takes to make it work and make changes.
Hugs
I just wanted to say how sorry I am.
Kelly
DS 1 12-02
DS 2 12-04
DD 07-08
i am so, sorry to read your update. i hope you can find a therapist ASAP as others suggested...that is just WAY too much for one person to deal with alone. you are not a doormat for wanting to fix your marriage...you are an awesome, strong mama who just wants the best for her sweet babies.
anyway, FWIW, last year i went and saw a therapist and got depression/anxiety meds and i was dealing with much, much less (no issues with DCs, no marriage issues, just hormones majorly out of whack causing anxiety/depression and headaches). With all you've been going through in the past few years (your DS's issues, new baby with reflux, rental propety, marriage issues) i'm amazed you have been able to go for so long through so much without some serious outside help . so cut yourself some slack, first of all...you are under an enormous amount of stress right now. hope you can find the help you need and deserve.
Last edited by ♥ms.pacman♥; 03-26-2013 at 01:26 PM.
So sorry. My heart aches for all you've dealt with. Hoping you find peace soon.
DS1 July 2010
DS2 November 2012