Op, that would annoy me. I get that stereotypes are hard to change but it isn't hard to follow specific directions. "if there is an emergency, call my husband first". Is NOT hard to figure out.
I will admit I'm having a hard time with remembering the stereotype thing. The only SAHD who is in our playgroup has to put up with us old biddies all the time. When the SAHP get together he is the only guy in the group. And even though he is one of the most hands-on parents in the group, we make stupid mistakes all the time. Just the other day one of the moms started talking about periods. The whole group of women joined in. But not AL. He got very quiet. Then we started talking about breast feeding and then pregnancy experiences- particularly weight gain and insecure feelings about that. About that point he walked in the other room and started playing with the kids. I felt bad and apologized later. They are just hard habits to break. He understood it will take time for us old women to remember he is just as much of a hands on parent as we are.
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