Originally Posted by
crl
I understand. We declined parties when ds was little for similar reasons. But I just said no or if a reason seemed necessary, prior commitment. I am completely fine with the idea that not traumatizing my son is a prior commitment so I don't even feel like it's a white lie. I would hate to hurt someone else's feelings trying to spare my ds'.
Catherine
I guess I should have clarified better. We have declined invitations to laser tag with "not interested". These were not birthday parties for unrelated children. They were more of "let's get all the kids together for laser tag." We can't be unavailable indefinitely, especially when we are available for other activities. So I say that DS is not interested, because it's enough that these kids know that DS is scared of fire drills and tornado drills. They don't need to know that he is terrified of laser tag.
We have turned down family member birthday parties at laser tag. But family members know that DS can't tolerate laser tag and have birthday parties there anyway. So I figure our attendance isn't a high priority to them. Of course, they think DS should just get over it.
Last edited by Gena; 05-25-2013 at 10:16 PM.
Gena
DS, age 11 and always amazing
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