Update: I met with the Director today. She was upset the teachers had approached me without her and clarified the worries. Apparently they have a Social Worker come and observe each class before the end of the year to help figure out needs to ease the transition into the next year. The SW looks at overall class dynamic and then focuses on any children they have flagged. DD1 had been pointed out because she had a horrible meltdown the week prior to the observation. (She was out sick the next day, so I thought at the time her meltdown was related to not feeling well). During the observation the SW didn't notice any real issues, but noted that DD1 is shy. In her notes, which the Director shared with me, she said that DD1 might benefit from some therapy/attention to help boost her confidence/ease anxiety, but that she would be surprised if DD1 actually qualified for anything through the city/county.
I left the meeting feeling a bit more at ease but also a bit more confused. The Director suggested that if we get her evaluated, we may get some valuable suggestions for tools/skill building, even if DD1 doesn't qualify for services...
Which makes me think may e its worth it to get the evaluation either way, right?
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DD1s preschool teacher approached me today about getting DD1 evaluated. I was/am surprised. She said they are worried about specific behaviors:
1. DD1 is fairly quick to cry
2. Sometimes DD1 prefers to play by herself instead of with classmates
DD1 turns 4 next week. Does she cry more than I'd like? Well, of course but she's 3! she's been getting MUCH better the closer we get to 4. She seems to be developing coping mechanisms, etc. she doesn't seem to cry more than any other 3 yo I know. She plays with other kids a ton, and is really exceptional with 1 yo DD2. DD1 has an incredibly active imagination, and her teachers have told me that most of her classmates haven't really grown into that phase yet. So, it makes sense to me that sometimes shed prefer to play alone.
I don't get it. I asked for more specifics, but this is pretty much all they told me. My mommy radar just isn't going off. Obviously I don't want to deprive DD1 of help if that is what she needs, but what kind of help does she need?